When you feel this way just have it at the back of your mind that every other parent feels the same way at one point too so brace up,, you are only getting better.
Are your methods not working for you anymore? Are you finding it difficult accessing to your children? Are you finding it difficult parenting your teenage child? I have gathered some useful tips for you..one or two of them would just be what could do the trick. Alright?!!
Grab a cup of coffee and let's go.......
Spend ample time with your child: Your busy schedules at work might not let you have all the time you would want with your child but you have to squeeze out time for t.. Make him part of your schedule.
Discuss with him about his day at school and you will get to know about the upcoming games competition and even the boy bullying him at school.
Play pillow games with him, go mount climbing. Create times for vacation; you can use your leave period.
Your child should be your priority.
Be involved in your child's life : It is true that as children grow and develop, they want their privacy and want to be independent. That does not mean you should not be in their goings anymore.
Get to know their friends, their hobbies, their likes and dislikes, things they want to venture into. You do not have to interfere in their business. Strike a balance between participating in their lives and their privacy.
What you do matters: You are the first mirror to life that your child sees and so you should be mindful of what you do. Children are very observant, they take note of everything around them; the good and the bad
You are their role models, do what you would have them do. Don't tell them it's wrong to stay up late at night while you always watch reality shows through out the night.
Be there for their milestone: There will be important memories in your child's life which you wouldn't want to miss out being a part of. Your child's graduation from the kindergarten, his first presentation at his school's speech day, the day he goes to college are examples of events that are so important in the life stages of your child.
Be there for your children on special moments in their lives you never know the amount of strength it gives to them.
You cannot be too loving: No amount of love showerd on your child is ever too much.
Your child needs to feel the love overflowing at every given time. It should not flunctaute. Let him feel that you love for him is never going to run out. Show him all the love in your heart, who are you keeping the rest for by the way?
It is a false belief that too much love makes your child misbehave,, it us actually the other way round.
It has been confirmed that children whose parents peck them before dropping them off at school perform better.
Establish and set rules : In a home where there are no rules, chaos becomes the order of the day.
You child should not be left to do things anyhow,, there should be a pattern of doing things,, there should be dos and don'ts and we'll spell out too. This way you are moulding them into what you want.
Avoid harsh discipline: There should be disciplinary measures meted out on your children but it should be mild.
Children find it difficult differentiating between discipline when it's harsh and cruelty.
Often times we hear children say "mummy is not fair, she locks me in the basement". When your child thinks you're unfair it's difficult to correct that impression.
Treat your child with respect : Your child wants to be recognized. Every of his opinion must not be side-lined all the time.
Treating your child with respect makes him feel important and needed.
Never compare: Nothing reduces the self worth of your child like comparism. Your child is trying sonjard to please you, comparing him to some other child is killingonly doing harm. You are setting him five steps backwards because you are making him feel the other child is better than him. It kills the zeal in him and you create unnecessary rivalry in his heart.
Instead of compare why not try to praise. He improves with this.
Let him learn from natural consequences: you can't always tell your child the reason for everything you tell him not to do. Let him do those things he wants to do and when he makes mistakes he learns from them. For example he goes to bed late despite your warnings and the next day at school he gets punished for sleeping in the class.
Remember how old your child is: Having in mind the age of your child is very important. The way you'd scold a five year old is not the same way you should scold a fourteen year old. You wouldn't scold your teenager like a baby.. He'll flare up and you will end up not passing your point.
For your intentions not to be misinterpreted you have to be conscious of your child's age.
Live in the present : when your child was four he would nod his head to every thing you told him to will not do same when he is fifteen.
When he is fifteen you should understand why ur tends to be more argumentative is because if the stage he is in.
Put yourself in their shoes: Remember when you were at their ages you also said stuff like this, you also behave like how they behave now,, you also needed these things they need now.
You were once in this their stage, you once behaved like them,, it was normal for you. So it is only normal for them too. You should put yourself in their shoes and understand their point instead of causing a fight with them.
Finally
Have faith in your child: Your mind should be at rest whenever your children are not at home with you,, especially when they ate grown up and either in boarding school or in the University.
You should have trust his his discretion. You have trust him to be able to live up to your expectations and also live up to the moral standards you have put in him. You have done a good job why not sit and watch the results.
Your child wants you to trust him,, don't worry he is doing the right thing.
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